As teachers as coaches, parents,as educators as trainers.
We are falling short. The simple question of what do you need today is missed.
Not only with children, but with most adults as well. When you walk into a session, be it with a coach or trainer, a sports session it’s almost always “Let’s do this”.
Very few trainers, educators and providers are meeting people where they need or where they are with what they deserve. Educating our young women to have autonomy and control over their physical selves will give them the confidence to have autonomy and control over their emotional, social and work related pressures down the line.
These aren’t trivial extracurricular things. These are everyday necessities to function in our high paced, high demand society.
Being in your body, owning and feeling your physical response to situations is key to emotional regulation.
Being in your body, owning and feeling your physical response to movement is key to injury prevention and a healthy body composition.
Being in your body, owning and feeling your physical response to stressors is key to good mental health, and yet we are not training our youth to be in their bodies.
We are instead keeping them in their heads and going through the physical motions without connecting the brain to the body, without creating those neural pathways without allowing them an understanding of what is happening inside them. This does not give an individual strength, confidence and control.
It’s the same as training an animal…. you simply tell them to do and expect them to do it. Our children are not little circus monkeys. We do not have the right to expect them to perform without giving them the ability to take full control.
Worse still, we treat ourselves exactly the same way. Going through the motions with little care or respect for our wellbeing at the expense of ticking the boxes and doing what we were always told was good for us.
I am over it. If we want a healthier approach for our daughters, we have to lead by example. Learn to not just feel but understand what our bodies are screaming at us for. Learn to build a healthy and sustainable relationship with food, exercise and rest.Learn to embrace all the unique qualities of being a woman, instead of attempting to play by the boys club rules.
Ladies we are different to men. Not better or worse, just different. And we need to train like it.
Its time we play by our own rules, its time to train like a girl and be the role model we all deserve.
*One day training launches September 21st. If you are a coach, teacher or girl mom and want to be a part of the change reach out now to join us.Book my space!
I want to talk today about the difference between motivation and momentum, because I think we often get a little confused.
So we talked in the previous episode about finding your why, that why is your driving force, it’s your motivation. It’s the thing that is supposed to keep you going even on the very hardest day. But have you ever just not been able to get started?
You have your reason, you have the goal. You know you want it and yet nothing happens. This is where we’ve got to learn to understand the difference between being motivated and creating momentum towards that goal. Motivation is a really funny thing. We talk about it, we throw the word out there and we put up motivational posts in the mornings and they’re supposed to inspire and drive you, but they don’t push you off the chair into that first step. It is super important that you create that for yourself. So this is where we really have to start throwing these excuses out the window and really be accountable for our own actions!!
If like me, you can maybe have a tendency to overthink, perhaps not want to do anything until you’re able to do it just right. Really want to get it perfect. What is perfect?
You can actually create a state of paralysis by continuing to look for that perfect moment. The perfect reason, the perfect habit to create…… massive spoiler alerts….. there is no perfect!
There’s no perfect time. There’s no perfect step. There is no perfect way to do anything, there’s only what you can do right now. And that in the moment is exactly right.
Get out of your own way and don’t stop you from reaching those goals. It is the teeny tiny steps along the way that will actually get you to that end goal. Not a giant leap forward.
Imagine for example, you want to run a marathon. I say imagine because I really can’t imagine that, 26.2 miles. That’s a big scary chunk, and I doubt very much if I kept looking at the 26 mile marker that I’d even want to start with the first step. But what if I simply broke it down a mile at a time, one foot in front of the other? I could actually make a good impact inside of a week, or a month or a year.
If, for example, you have set yourself a goal to lose X amount of weight, that number that big number might seem overwhelming. So why not start with the first pound? Just break it down. Don’t sit there stuck, not being able to celebrate the tiny steps because you’re not as close to the end goal as you would like to be.
Remember, when you started secondary school, high school or college, your end goal was to finish right? If you think back to that time it seemed so far away. But looking back, whether it was four years, seven years, however long you spent studying to finish and tick that box, it’s gone in the blink of an eye. And it’s all the teeny tiny steps, small assignments, the single individual classes. They’re the things that got you to the end.
Yet when it comes to our health and well being, we don’t break it down that way.
Another way that people tend to really create a stagnant state of being is by looking at the negatives. We don’t really achieve well, by focusing on the things we don’t do, the things we can’t do, or the things that we’re not good at. That’s simply going to set you back. What if you focused on the positive? What if I told you that every aspect of a healthy lifestyle was about adding value?
With that in mind, what if instead of taking away all the things we know we’re not supposed to do, we just add in one thing that we are supposed to be doing. One thing that makes us feel better. One thing that gives us more energy. One thing that takes us one step closer to the end goal of our healthiest, happiest self.
I know that that makes it sound super simple, but I promise you, that is the secret!
If you focus on adding in value, adding in healthy habits eventually when you add enough, there won’t be any room left for the bad habits. There won’t be any room left the negative and you will be living your best version of you before you know it. You’re laughing and rolling your eyes and I get that I can hear it from here. (That’s the mommy in me)
But honestly, start today. Start first thing in the morning. Why do you think I released this at 6am just in case you were wondering. It’s to give you that kick in the balls first thing in the morning, when you are at your most motivated. All
you need to do is decide to add one thing that brings you closer to your healthy goal. For example, you want to eat better. Start with one clean, healthy meal made from scratch, in your own kitchen and do it first thing in the morning. You can then tick off that box. Healthy Habits done for today! It’s a little gold star that should keep you going for the rest of your day. Feeling good about making that choice and knowing that you’re on the right track.
Just do it. Nike said it best guys. You can’t argue with that tagline.
Once it’s done, goldstar, box ticked, move on with your day with that satisfaction of knowing you completed your goal. We are all at heart, just giant children. We need to be praised. We need to be told how great we are. And we actually need to learn to do that for ourselves. So create your little tick boxes. Get a chart of gold stars if that’s what it takes. But make sure that every day you add that one health habit until that habit is just part of your norm. Then you can move on to the next one.
Some habits will take a little longer than others. But at the end of the day, it’s not about the speed. It’s about the momentum. Create that momentum for yourself every single day. And the motivation to stay going, will come! They two very different things, but you’re in charge of both. No excuses from now on. Choose your healthy habits, and take a step.
We are here to help and I can’t wait to hear how your first step into a healthy life goes. Have a super week.
So we are happily settled in our new home( well pretty much…there are still a few bits to finish) and never one to rest on my laurels I have decided to take on a new project.
Something has been nagging at me for years to get the online platform ready and finally after a lot of research, a stalled start and a good many sleepless nights, I have found my system!
You see I do believe that you can achieve anything if you are willing to work for it, just look at how much the studio and fabulous community here have grown! I also know how much work goes into setting something up from the ground. Sometimes the answer is simpler than you thought.
For a long time I have followed some amazing online Fitness coaches who are real inspiration to me. They have a great system, a super community and most of all they GET RESULTS! Results are what we really want…. it is what motivates you as clients and me as a trainer. I believe that what I need to deliver is a results driven program and rather than start from scratch this time I am going to use the tools and systems already tried and tested and be able to reach out and deliver to people not just here, but anywhere! I am so freaking excited!!!!!!
Not only do I get to launch my online program properly and reach out to ladies who are too far away to make classes here, profesionals who work crazy hours and need a portable system, and mamas who work even crazier hours and need a plan that fits the most hectic schedule, but best of all……….
This time I don,t have to do it alone!
If you are now or ever have been self employed you know that there can be very long and lonely days. The weight of all the jobs from cleaning the floors to marketing to cash reporting and customer falls to you. And in the very early stages you cant always justify the outlay for help. Sometimes it is just stubbornness and ego and this is a terrible combination.
Learning to look for support, to ask for help when you need and to get out of your own way is tough, but wow is it worth it! I am now about to launch something that was only a pipe dream for so long and I have a tribe of people behind me who are there to support me through it.
When you are looking for solutions remember to be open to possibilities. Ask for help when you can and never let your ego get in the way of being part of something wonderful. The opportunities are there for you if you are willing to see them.
Are you ready to start something new? We are happy to help,
